How to Improve Your Self Esteem

Posted by admin on Jul 28, 2008 in happiness | 0 comments

A few days ago I heard the word self-esteem and it resonated with me. I wrote it down thinking “I could use some more of that.” I didn’t give it much thought until this morning as I was crawling out of bed. The word popped back in my head along with a possible way to work on my self-esteem without building up my ego. This is my grand idea:

Keep a list of 5 great things I do each day. I keep a gratitude list, so why not make another list about my small accomplishments? This isn’t bragging, but rather recognizing how I managed to listen to my true self and let that person transpire.

I got out of bed, made a cup of tea and started reading my book. The chapter’s topic happened to be about the same thing. Here’s a few highlights worth mentioning:

• Remain independent of others’ opinions regardless of whether they love us or hate us. If we gain approval, we become a slave to their approval altering ourselves to gain more. If they dislike us, we push even harder to change their minds. Either way, someone else’s opinion will be directing your life. And these opinions don’t take into account who you truly are as a whole. In fact, most people don’t even know who they are as a whole, so how will they assess you? Opinions don’t matter.
• Listen to the your own critical comments. When you have these thoughts, let them tell you what they want. It may think it has to protect you from disappointment or pain. Then put aside the negative connotation, and you’ll discover they really want is to feel good. So let it!
• Make the internal shift from It probably won’t happen to me to It’s on it’s way!. Remember that we get what we think about whether we want it or not, so choose your thoughts carefully. Start telling yourself “I came from greatness. I attract greatness. I am greatness”.